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A Post-Election Game Plan

Intelligence, PoliticsMarisol DahlComment

Three Articles to Read

Because while I have no doubt our President-elect has tapped into the racist and sexist sentiments of some people in this country, that's not the whole story. We have to do better at understanding the over 60 million people who voted for this person. 

Cracked: How Half of America Lost It's F**king Mind

J. D. Vance: Life Outside the Liberal Bubble

New York Times: A ‘Dewey Defeats Truman’ Lesson for the Digital Age

Three Ways to Move Forward

Education: Read. Talk to people. Peruse the Facebook feeds of people who do not share your exact views. Lean in to conversations and lines of thought that aren't immediately comfortable. 

Self-care: Let your emotions run through. Don't mind the people who scoff at these "dramatic" reactions. If your body and mind is responding to this election (or any major event for that matter) in a certain way, take time to honor what's happening internally. These feelings and gut reactions are signals of what you need to do next, and how you can best go about recovery to come out stronger. 

Action: I'll hand it over to the people at Man Repeller for this. Post-Election To-Do List: How to Take Action, Donate and Help

Three Things I Know For Sure

1. I feel more patriotic than ever. The day after the election was, for me, a day of solitude and reflection. I felt sad and shocked. It was tough to see the immediate world around me go through this first phase of devastation.

But sometime midmorning I was overcome with a sudden drive to throw myself into my work in service of others.  

My biggest question this week is not, how did this happen? It's: how can I grow to best make a positive impact on other people? 

This is our country, and we collectively decide its narrative. Let's show up in the best way possible. Let's show the ultimate form of love by demonstrating unwavering loyalty as we face some daunting challenges ahead.

On top of that, we can't forget to be proud that we had our first woman nominee from a major party. And she won the popular vote by over two million. #Hillyes

2. We have to give Trump a chance. This is our duty and the courtesy we must afford to our lawfully elected leaders.

He may have won the presidency but we can still hold him to the moral, ethical, social, and political standards that we have expected from all other presidents. We must still expect him to represent the absolute best of America, and nothing less. 

3. This is what change feels like. Progress is almost always punctuated with setbacks. In the pursuit of our ultimate vision for this nation, we have to be willing to take these risks and embrace what comes. 

How to Simplify Your Decisions

Intelligence, HappinessMarisol DahlComment

According to the paradox of choice, the more options and choices we have, the more we are paralyzed with fear and anxiety of making the wrong decision. We are less happy with the choices we do make if we know there is potential for regret.

Deliberating on decisions for too long is also unproductive and a waste of time.

Embrace opportunities to get rid of "choice excess" and get on with your day. This may be harder to immediately implement, but it's about exposing yourself to less.

How to Simplify Your Decisions

Adopt a signature style. Read Finding a Uniform and Why We Should Wear the Same Thing to Work Every Day for inspiration. And this doesn't just have to apply to clothes—commit to a signature dish for potlucks, a favorite perfume, a go-to hostess gift.

Set rules and boundaries that make sense to you. For instance, dine out only on weekends, or finish one book before starting another.

Hide things. Out of sight, out of mind—in the best way possible. I like to keep my living area (especially my desk) free of as much clutter as possible. I’ll consciously set things out—like a book I want to read, or a piece of mail I need to address—as a strong visual reminder of what my priorities are. You can also do this digitally, like putting your email inbox on snooze, or using an app like Self Control that blocks certain websites for a set period of time.

What to read if you don't know where to start

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What to read if your feeling green: The Atlantic's Are Tote Bags Good for the Environment?

Whether they're delicately handled designer goods or a promotional product dirtied by daily wear, few totes are made to last long enough to obtain the number of uses required to reach resource-expenditure parity with the plastic bags they were meant to supplant.

... Ecologically speaking, the best practice for tote bags might be one of two extremes: use them all the time, or not at all.

What to read if you don't know where to start: Gala's On Making A "Fuck That" List

Without the flipside — the “negative” stuff — we can’t see our blessings, and we don’t know what we want.

It’s okay to start there. Looking at what terrifies you, your fears, and the things that keep you awake at night, is an excellent way to figure out what motivates you.

What to read if you're feeling existential: Darling Magazine's Why Talking About Death Should Be a Natural Part of Life

What if the result of grieving was to restore what has been lost? When someone has died, the pressure to let go can actually complicate grief and trigger depression. Rather than saying goodbye and shutting the door, what if we invited our memories along with us?

How to look forward to everyday

Intelligence, Happiness, Health, CreativityMarisol DahlComment

How to eat healthy: The simple rule of thumb from my osteopath: a plate that is half fruits and veggies, a quarter lean protein, and a quarter starches/complex carbohydrates.

How to read more books: Listen to audio books during your in-between times—in the shower, getting ready in the morning, riding the subway, on line at a store, making dinner.

How to look forward to everyday: Have a creative project that is all yours.